“Call your mother. Tell her you love her. Remember, you’re the only person who knows what her heart sounds like from the inside.” Rachel Wolchin
A mother’s heartbeat is first heard by the fetus at approximately 18 weeks. By the time we are born, we have listened to our mother’s heartbeat an average of 17,740,800 times. This steady, rhythmic sound is part of what we know. Always constant, we are safe and protected.
As soon as we enter this world and are placed in our mother’s arms, we instantly bond because of the beat.
As an infant, we become calm when pressed to our mother’s bosom. We can hear that familiar sound, although in a different way now. It competes with all the other outside noises. We no longer hear it constantly, but it is there, and we feel it.
Growing up, the beat continues, but now it shouts encouragement. “You did it! I knew you could!” A few beats are skipped when our mother watches us do things for the first time; school, a soccer game, dance recital, the first date.
We recognize that tender, selfless beat when our mother gives up her piece of pie, convincing us she’s on a diet anyway. Or buys the perfect prom dress when she hasn’t had any new clothes for a very long time.
The beat is relentless, even when she hands us wings to fly. Although her heart is breaking, she wouldn’t have it any other way. It makes her heart sing to see our own beat affect the lives of others.
When our mother’s heart stops beating, it can still be felt. You see, it is part of us and will always be. With each pulse, we became connected before we ever met. With time, both heartbeats synced and now they are one.